Where does one person get the right to judge how I chose to live my life? Yes, I am human, we are all human, we all make mistakes, but if my mistake doesn’t affect them, why should they have the right to judge me? The so called ‘mistake’ which I have made is, that I have hidden a relationship from my family for over a year, and I hid it because the culture I come from does not allow interracial relationships, which I think is silly. He is the kindest man, treats me with respect, loves me, wants to marry me, does sweet things, we never fight. I came clean to my parents, I am 18, my parents took my phone, don’t allow me to see my friends, or be alone, even for a minute. I miss my boyfriend so god damn much it hurts to be alive right now. I know I’m young, although if I feel that I’m doing the right thing then why can’t my parents accept? Because I’d shame the family name, I don’t care about what people think of me, I want to be happy in the life I am living, because I only get to live once. My one wish would be to just be reunited with him, because I miss him deeply.Back to the point of my story, and as I’ve made this ‘mistake’ the community is starting to shame me, they can suck me off for all I care. But I just want to know, why are people so judgemental!!!!!! :@
First off – please know that you are not alone in this. Sure, it’s not an easy task when your views are so different from your parents, but conflicts like these happen a lot. Life is really long, and throws curveballs at you all the time. You will get through this.
Your parents’ feelings are just as real as yours, and chances are they probably feel as alienated by your decision (because of their cultural background) as you feel about their treatment of you. Find some way to your boyfriend and tell him what’s going on (email, or a pay phone, perhaps since your mobile’s not with you at the moment).
Now your heart might scream that “it’s impossible!”, but I think it would be a good idea to keep some distance and not communicate with him for a while (it’s okay – true love will wait patiently) for the sake of repairing the family relationship (it’s giving you loads of stress as it is, so you have to fix it ASAP). Once everything is back to normal at home and your parents aren’t freaking out anymore, you can try to have a proper conversation then. This can take a week, or months; you have to be the judge and know when is the right time to bring it up.