I feel so lonely and hopeless. All my friends have husbands, long-term relationships, jobs…and I am still a 25 year old virgin without any relationship experience, currently doing Master’s degree in a distant country. I feel like guys are avoiding me and I have no idea why. I am told I am very pretty and have a great body, dressed up nicely, quite fun and not stupid, but still I just cannot attract anyone. I often feel delusional, pathetic and worthless. For a year now I see myself getting alienated from my close friends, being afraid that people will pity me, growing angry at my parents for raising me with such high self-esteem, angry at myself for being arrogant but full of doubts and complexes. All those feelings plus sexual frustration, no clear career prospects are driving me crazy. I don’t want to live.
I am sorry to hear you’re having trouble. I can’t be of much help because I am actually in a worse position than you. I’m 28 and never been in a relationship. I still live with my parents and I have dropped out of college twice. One thing I’m starting to realize is that you shouldn’t compare yourself to others. Your life is different and you will go through different things just accept that fact. Feeling sorry for yourself isn’t going to get you anywhere.
Has life sucked up to this point? Maybe. Do you want it to suck for another 25 years? No? Then I suggest you make a commitment to changing your life. Go do something fun and exciting. Do something that scares you(not dangerous). Make someone smile. Get rejected, it stings but it makes you stronger. Life doesn’t come to you, you come to life.
P.S. I would like to say thank you. Like I mentioned above, I struggle with this as well. I find it easy to help others but I couldn’t use that on myself. You were the perfect mirror and I saw myself clearly. Thank you and good luck.
I am glad to hear that I am not the only one as well. I am your age, and I have only had one kiss in my life, and that was a few months ago. But we only had the one date.
In high school was referred to as the guy in the 40 Year Old Virgin – might still happen who knows. But this year I actually started dating, so I guess that’s a step forward.
Yes it sucks, but what can you do about it?
I’m a 23 year old virgin and I feel the same way, I’ve never had a relationship before and men are trying to avoid me even though they compliment me. I have a crush on someone that we regularly hang out but he has a girlfriend that hates me, and I’ve never showed him or her that I like him. I know she is not a good girlfriend to him because she’s unfaithful to him. I really want to be with this guy because he’s an amazing person but his girlfriend is in the way and she does not deserve him.
I also feel like a nasty failure. I’m 24 years old and a virgin, but with a master’s degree and an exceptional career. I just gave up, I just think I might not be worthy enough as a woman for anyone to want to be with me.