I need help/advice, I like this girl at uni, I don’t really speak much to her in person cos I am shy, but talk to her occasionally on facebook and MSN. Anyway, I had a really nice dream about her last night. We were talking, have fun and were really close friends – something that I really want. As dreams go off track, this one did. It was about planes crashing/exploding in the air.
I have a bit of a feeling that she hates me quite a bit. I was thinking, that this dream could mean that I had a great time being her friend, then that all ending (with the reference to the plan exploding). Then today, she removes me as a friend on Facebook – she’s still friends with other mutual friends – but she did say she was going on a big friend cleanup. I’ve seem to be the first to go. I can’t see how many friends she’s removed cos she has removed her friends list.
Now for my question, she I ask her why she deleted me as a facebook friend, or leave it and never speak to her again? Should I tell her how I feel? Out of the 7 girls I have liked in my life, all of them have rejected me in a similar way.
Can I have some advice?
PRStudent says:
April 23rd, 2010 at 2:10 am
Has she blocked you on MSN? And do you see her anywhere else?
I would send her an email and ask why she deleted you on facebook.
Bob says:
April 23rd, 2010 at 5:55 am
I only see her at uni, she hasn’t blocked me on msn and she said that she deleted me because I don’t talk to her in person and was commenting on all her stuff and she thought that was a bit weird.
I said couldn’t you just tell me to stop, she said I could have.
She I add her back? I kinda of speak to her, but it isn’t a discussion. Just like one line sentences.
PRStudent says:
April 23rd, 2010 at 3:25 pm
In that case, I think it’s best you don’t speak to her again unless she says something first.
I’m guessing you added her as a friend on facebook? She shouldn’t have accepted the request if she didn’t know who you are. All of this could have been avoided.
I wish I had some advice for you on how to meet girls in person but I struggle with that a bit myself. I used to be on eHarmony for a while and actually did meet a really nice girl near where I am. She wasn’t interested in a relationship — just looking to see who was on there. But still, I got a good friend out of the deal.
Bob says:
April 24th, 2010 at 12:36 am
She knows who I am, and I added her on Facebook a couple of months ago. Her FB profile is very strict, everything is private.
Anyway, I don’t think I have a chance, and I’ve probably screwed any chance I have up (like I always do), I’m just gonna tell msg her how I feel, and if she wants to do something, awesome, if not, oh well. Least I can get it off my chest. Plus only got another 6 more weeks of seeing her. My aswell make the most of it if she does say yes.
PRStudent says:
April 25th, 2010 at 4:55 am
From what you’ve told me, I don’t think you’ve screwed anything up.
You were the one putting forth the effort in trying to make a friend. She’s the one at fault for ignoring you.
Anonymous says:
April 25th, 2010 at 5:02 am
I’ve known her for about 1.5 years, and never really spoke to her, so starting to talk to her now will just feel weird.
Do you think I should add her as a friend on facebook again?
She does has a boyfriend of 2 years though.
The past year, she didn’t hang around anyone, and in the past 2 weeks, she’s been sitting next to guys, guys sitting next to her and talking to them. And I am not in any classes with her any more, so I don’t really talk to her/see her much any more. Maybe she’s made new friends with them.
I kinda want to get permission to sit next to her, because I just don’t want to do it, in case she really hates me.