Ever since I got married to my boyfriend 10 months back, we have been living an amazing life together, sharing, supporting, helping each other out in all aspects of life.
But life becomes hell and depressed when his mother gets rude and mean towards me.
I know it’s the same old MILs vs DILs situation and unfortunately I am facing it now.
I was told earlier by my husband that she is too sensitive and depressed and she looses her anger over anyone. Ok, I get that, but hello. You have been tortured by her behavior all your life that doesn’t mean I have to. If she is depressed she’s not well, why is she trying to make me one. I have respected her in all possible ways,shown my sympathy too as she’s not well I guess, I even kept my calm when she shouts at me and says bad thing about my parents for no fucki.. reason at all. One of the recent incident I didn’t call her up in past 2 weeks as I was busy and she was so pissed that she just started scolding me over the call saying “neither you call nor your parents call us, what do they think of themselves that they have married their daughter and now they don’t care. This is not how our family runs, this is totally unbearable. This is what your parents has taught you.” And there were more such of shit over the phone. Hell yeah! my parents don’t call you because you guys have always ignored them treated them as if they owe you something. How many times have you called my parents in past 10 months MIL??? “Zero”. Yes, that’s the count not even on festivals. You are not well, you are sick, depressed whatever but one more thing about my parents and I will take a stand. I will not disrespect you but you will have to hear me too. I do not expect my husband to be involved in this but I know he too is affected by this. He agrees totally that his parents are wrong in what they are doing but right now he will not do anything about it.. maybe later.. I hope… But if I am to be at his position I would have taken a stand . I have always taken a stand for I can see clearly whats right and whats wrong. It will not matter to me if my parents are the ones who are wrong and as a matter of fact I spoke against my parents when they were wrong. I made them realize that. So how is this situation different for my husband. Maybe he needs time. I will give him time. Time is all I have. But not the patience. I don’t want to ruin the relationship. I have been trying to save it since last 3 years I have known his family. I am still trying, but i don’t know when I am gonna loose my calm. Will I be the evil person who will damage this family if i take a stand??
