I have serious trust issues.. I cant seem to trust anyone. I don’t know what to do. I have been in a relationship with a girl for over 3 years now but nothing seems to satisfy me I’m just sad. We have a long distance relationship now because I had to move for kind of a job after graduation. I’m struggling.. as far as I can remember I have been sad and depressed. I’m feel miserable and suicidal but I just know killing myself would be wrong. I keep praying that I die.. I don’t even know how to go on any longer, I’m just done with everything. I’ve no friends because I was too busy with my girl. I gave her everything, I did all that I could do to please her. Now that I’m away all I can think is that shes not faithful with me. She has made new friends and I just can’t seem to trust her with anything. She promised me she would give up talking to a certain guy and then lied about it. Now she wants to break up .. all I can think is that she used me to over come her sadness and now that she has accomplished it that she wants to move on. I’m 25 and still well kinda jobless not earning enough to support a family. Shes pressuring me to marry her I don’t want to yet I cant nor do my parents support. I cant go against my parents because I’m still somehow depending on them. I have no friends like no one at all.. no one. I live alone… I cant share all this with my parents they wont understand, it’s against our cultural norms you see. I thought sharing my feelings here might help. I might get to talk to someone about it.. I don’t know.. a lesson for everyone.
Be a man’s last and a woman’s first.
Please help me someone?
Being miserable and sad is your choice . I know why you are sad and depressed all the time.I will open up every single thing from the life you described above and will clear all your doubts.You are sad because, you were with one person all the time.you have no friends.now that space, where she was all the time, will become empty.
Now I need you to understand one thing clearly, The time you used to give to her ; you must utilize that time and keep yourself busy in that time.If she really loved you she would not have fallen for another one.We won’t blame her. you are also not the one to be blamed.If it ended you will take almost 3 -5 months to get recovered from the deadly after-breakup period. To recover soon , I would suggest you to erase materialistic things exchanged between you and her.Throw, Flush the things and gifts and block her from every place; FB, her phone number.
After that assing yourself new hobbies like any musical instrument, teaching orphan kids , writing , blogs.Start devoting time in meeting new people, making new friends, learning new things and helping the ones in need. Start focusing on your career and be the best in what you do.
Just wait , Time heals everything.All the best for a new endeavour.A lesson is always needed to grow in life.Do not be sad depressed and suicidal.Only solution is keeping yourself so busy that when you come back at your place , you eat and you fall asleep.
Keep it up buddy. People go through earthquakes , accidents , they lose all of their families in one instant.But they live.Life goes on. Is not it beautiful ? 🙂