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I need help/advice, I like this girl at uni, I don’t really …

I need help/advice, I like this girl at uni, I don’t really speak much to her in person cos I am shy, but talk to her occasionally on facebook and MSN. Anyway, I had a really nice dream about her last night. We were talking, have fun and were really close friends – something that I really want. As dreams go off track, this one did. It was about planes crashing/exploding in the air.
I have a bit of a feeling that she hates me quite a bit. I was thinking, that this dream could mean that I had a great time being her friend, then that all ending (with the reference to the plan exploding). Then today, she removes me as a friend on Facebook – she’s still friends with other mutual friends – but she did say she was going on a big friend cleanup. I’ve seem to be the first to go. I can’t see how many friends she’s removed cos she has removed her friends list.

Now for my question, she I ask her why she deleted me as a facebook friend, or leave it and never speak to her again? Should I tell her how I feel? Out of the 7 girls I have liked in my life, all of them have rejected me in a similar way.

Can I have some advice?


  1. Has she blocked you on MSN? And do you see her anywhere else?

    I would send her an email and ask why she deleted you on facebook.

  2. I only see her at uni, she hasn’t blocked me on msn and she said that she deleted me because I don’t talk to her in person and was commenting on all her stuff and she thought that was a bit weird.

    I said couldn’t you just tell me to stop, she said I could have.

    She I add her back? I kinda of speak to her, but it isn’t a discussion. Just like one line sentences.

  3. In that case, I think it’s best you don’t speak to her again unless she says something first.

    I’m guessing you added her as a friend on facebook? She shouldn’t have accepted the request if she didn’t know who you are. All of this could have been avoided.

    I wish I had some advice for you on how to meet girls in person but I struggle with that a bit myself. I used to be on eHarmony for a while and actually did meet a really nice girl near where I am. She wasn’t interested in a relationship — just looking to see who was on there. But still, I got a good friend out of the deal.

  4. She knows who I am, and I added her on Facebook a couple of months ago. Her FB profile is very strict, everything is private.

    Anyway, I don’t think I have a chance, and I’ve probably screwed any chance I have up (like I always do), I’m just gonna tell msg her how I feel, and if she wants to do something, awesome, if not, oh well. Least I can get it off my chest. Plus only got another 6 more weeks of seeing her. My aswell make the most of it if she does say yes.

  5. From what you’ve told me, I don’t think you’ve screwed anything up.

    You were the one putting forth the effort in trying to make a friend. She’s the one at fault for ignoring you.

  6. I’ve known her for about 1.5 years, and never really spoke to her, so starting to talk to her now will just feel weird.

    Do you think I should add her as a friend on facebook again?

    She does has a boyfriend of 2 years though.

    The past year, she didn’t hang around anyone, and in the past 2 weeks, she’s been sitting next to guys, guys sitting next to her and talking to them. And I am not in any classes with her any more, so I don’t really talk to her/see her much any more. Maybe she’s made new friends with them.

    I kinda want to get permission to sit next to her, because I just don’t want to do it, in case she really hates me.

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