I’m tired!! Life has been long and the loneliness has grown to an excruciating level! I don’t know how to reduce the pain, the devastation of not having someone.
I know my situation isn’t going to change, because I am me. I was hurt a very long time ago and I shut myself off. It was that or die.
Now 3 decades later I’m reeling from the pain my shell has caused me. Don’t be me, it’s okay to try again!! I’m 51. My time for a relationship is gone now. I’m not looking for pity I just want someone to hear me, please don’t let me be for nothing!
a relationship, its just not a marriage, but family, friends, and other people that has been get in touch in your life, im lonely too, but i always love to take care someone ya thats why i become a nurse, and i always speak to another, make them laugh, make them smile, and even forget about their sickness or pain, thats why i never feel lonely, i fight for my life, but i do spread my spirit to another.. i’ve been lonely since i was born.. anyway im 23 in this september 25..
You are not for nothing. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I also have a shell but I was one of the few lucky ones to find someone that respects me however I always tell myself if by any chance my relationship ends I’m not interested in finding someone. If it happens, it happens. I’m 37 and I understand how bad it feels to be lonely. I just got used to it. Since I was a kid my parents were too strict to see the damage they were doing to me by not allowing me to have an active social life. They drove my friends away. Results where lack of friends, I only have two in my life at the moment that I rarely see, and anxiety. I still don’t regret anything and wouldn’t change my life. It made me who I’m. More understanding and willing to help others. I sympathize more with the majority of the people and offer comfort by at least telling them they are not alone. A lot of us share the same feeling. I know is hard to see that you still have a chance at a good and amazing relationship but you do. You are still young. I lost my dad 6 years ago and my mom 63 now found someone recently. She is happy and I’m happy for her for giving herself a chance. There is always a person out there in the world for us. Now I’m not saying they are a perfect match but people that are kind and do want to listen to you, love you and care for you.
My advice is give yourself a chance and don’t think that your shell will prevent you from finding someone. It just made you wiser to not jump into any relationship that quick. Let the right person break that shell for you. There are a lot of dating sites which do work by the way if you are willing to give it a try. Also I have a companion which is my dog. They do help to feel positive. Going every day to walk them is very therapeutic. They help you to not feel lonely and you do get to make a great friend for life. They also teach you a lot of patience. Make sure to adopt one at a shelter though. Finding a friend form a high kill shelter helps because you know you saved them from a bad fate and in return they save you. Also going to the park with them helps you meet people which could end in finding that person you need in your life.
This was not pity talk by the way. I just know what you are going through and giving you my point of view on the situation since I know how hard our shells can be sometimes.