Don’t change yourself for others. Be you. Be the best you. If you don’t feel confident or comfortable with yourself, there’s no point to try. Do what you want to do. Dress how you want to. Be who you aspire to be. At the end of the day it’s not going to matter what people think about you. Unless you’re a jerk. Don’t be a jerk.
If you’re only thinking about what people think of you, what they think of your outfit, or your reputation, you’ll never feel accomplished. Not everyone’s going to like you. Not everyone one’s going to want to be your best friend. Everyone’s different. If you feel the need to be evaluated by other people or you’re compelled to evaluate others, you need a reality check.
It’s the same, for instance, with your followers on social media. Ultimately, it’s just a number. Let’s admit it. Out of all of your “500 followers”, you’re actually friends with only 30% of them. Or maybe less. In 5 years it won’t be about how many likes or comments you get, it’ll be about what’s happening in real life. 5 years from now you’re not going to remember what blouse someone was wearing or what someone’s shoes look like. You’re just going to remember their personality and what you did together.
Just because someone’s different, doesn’t give you a reason to be rude or judge them. Because they might end up as president. Or they might end up taking their live because of your meaningless, judgemental, false words. If someone’s self-esteem is so low that they have to make someone else feel lousy, that’s pretty pathetic. Everyone should be praised to be different and unique. If there’s a box of grey crayons, but one is red, wouldn’t you want to be the one that stands out.
Let’s say you’re applying for a job. If you act like everyone else, what gives them a reason to pick you over everyone else. Stand out. Show you originality and be proud. Because you’re one of a kind. But that doesn’t mean there aren’t people who are similar to you and you can spend your time with. If you stay true to yourself, you will find your people. Your people are those who won’t be judging you, they’ll be joining you. Even if you don’t think your people are out there, they are. Hope is not to be knocked down, it is to be built up.